“You yourself, as much as anybody in this entire universe, deserve your love and affection”-BUDDHA
So often I see people in relationships were it’s clear as day that their partner doesn’t share that same love or level of respect for them as they have for their partner and quite frankly it’s sad. Nothing is worse than unrequited love coming from the number one person you sacrifice so much for. I used to wonder how people would stay in relationships as such but then it hit me one day, they don’t love themselves! When you love who you are and you know your worth in this world you will never allow anyone to treat you with less love or respect than you deserve! I’m no exception to this, I’m actually speaking from experience. Sometimes it takes time and situations to happen FOR us in order to really put things in perspective! You know how they say “love is blind”… That has NEVER been a more true statement. If you’re in a relationship where you feel as though you’re not receiving the level of love and respect that you should be getting, then you owe it to yourself to let that go and learn to love yourself first. The reality of the situation is when we love ourselves then we can actually love and treat others with true, genuine love and until you fully love yourself and who you are you should stay single and go fall in love with yourself. Here are 5 ways that will help you learn to love yourself.
- Take Care of your body
One of the best ways we can start to love ourselves is to actually take care of our bodies. We only are granted one body in this lifetime so why not cherish it and respect it. Stop eating junk food and start paying attention to what we put into us. Go to the gym and workout. Drink water. Eat fruits and vegetables. Be mindful of the amount of alcohol we put into our bodies. If we don’t love our bodies and respect them can you expect the next person too? We set the standard on how we want to be treated and what we allow.
2. Set boundaries for yourself and stick to them
Setting boundaries for yourself is a great way to practice self-love. Knowing what you will and won’t allow will shape how other people decide to treat you. If you say you won’t take phone calls after 9 pm on a weekday because you need to sleep for work and someone decides to call anyway after you’ve told them not to then they shouldn’t be granted access to you in order to do so. People will take you seriously if they know you mean business. If not, they’re run all over you!
3. Stop giving people multiple chances after they screw up
Ok, we are human and yes we make mistakes but if this individual has continuously proven themselves to be untrustworthy then take that at face value and sever ties. How many times do you need to be screwed over before you get it? Ya know. You have to LOVE yourself enough that you can forgive and move forward but don’t give this person access to do it again. At this point, you are hurting your own feelings!
4. Spend time with yourself
This one has REALLY taught me some things about self-love. When you spend time with yourself you quiet a lot of outside noise and you gain clarity on things. We are caught up in situations we can’t think clearly. We are just too close to the situation. So spend some alone time with your best friend,, which is you. Go on walks, read, journal, listen to some motivational music, go take up a new trade, learn a new language or just treat yourself!
5. Start the journey to personal development
When you start the journey to personal development it’s the best awakening you’ll ever receive. You will learn how to take care of your physical body, you will learn about your emotions and why you have them with certain areas of your life. You will learn about your mental state and why it is the way that it is and how you can improve on it. You will learn how to truly love yourself and others around you and so much more.