” You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do”
Self-confidence may be one of the things holding you back from living the life you dream of . This is something a lot of us lack but definitely need to improve on. As the new year is steadily approaching, you may hear the all too well phrase “new year, new me”. While absolutely nothing is wrong with trying to transform into a new person, why not continue being the amazing person that you are and simply try implementing some new ways into your life. Here are 10 ways to boost your self-confidence and start the new year off right!
- Groom yourself
Now as simple and obvious as this sounds, so many people don’t do it. How could you possibly feel confident when your hair is sticking up all over the place or you left your house without washing your face? You cant. It takes a few minutes to make sure you are properly groomed before you put yourself in the public eye. It sucks but your appearance precedes you and before you even get the opportunity to introduce yourself people have already made the decision on whether they’re going to take you seriously or not. You’d be amazed how much more confident you feel when you’ve taken a shower, put on a nice and light fragrance (because scents leave a lasting impression) and are well-groomed.
2. Dress Nicely
As stated with making sure you’re properly groomed, your appearance is something that sets the tone about who you are before you even get to speak. More importantly, if you dress nice, you’ll feel good about yourself. You’ll feel presentable and ready to take on the day. I’m not suggesting that you go out and buy the latest and greatest pair of Prada shoes but make sure your shoes aren’t dirty and your clothes fit properly and are wrinkle-free. Dressing to impress (yourself) is always a self-confidence booster!
3. Kill negative thoughts
Our thoughts shape our behaviors and our behaviors shape our reality. When you kill negative thoughts or replace them with positive ones, we allow great things to happen to us and in turn, when great things happen to us we feel more confident. We must become aware of our self-talk because we believe what we tell ourselves. Learning and practicing affirmations helps significantly with this. Tell yourself, ” I am confident” whenever self doubt kicks in. Practice this regularly and watch how much confidence you’ll actually start to feel.
4. Get to know yourself
One of the most important relationships you’ll ever have in life is with yourself. Learning what you like, what makes you happy and what disturbs your peace is vital. Start writing your life experiences in a journal and take note of everything. Notice where you have self-limiting situations and write out ways you’re going to overcome that. Self-confidence is believing in your abilities, qualities, and judgment.
5. Walk faster and practice good posture
Having good posture can create hormones in the brain that make you feel more self-assured. Body language influences how we feel about ourselves and how others perceive us as well. Keeping your head up instead of looking down when you walk shows that you are a powerful individual and it exudes self-confidence. The pace you walk also says a lot about yourself as well. Someone walking slowly may seem as though they have no business about themselves and they nothing to do and nowhere to be.
6. Speak slowly and clearly
The way you speak says about your self-confidence as well. When you speak very fast you come across as nervous. When you speak slow others can understand what you’re saying. Speak clear and enunciate your words. People who are very confident also speak up where they’re able to be heard. Make what you say count by practicing these tips when it comes to talking to boost your confidence.
7. Set a small goal and achieve it
It’s been proven that whenever we set a goal and actually achieve it our confidence level goes up! Set small, attainable goals regularly and set out to make them happen. The more we do this, the more we believe in ourselves and know we can do anything we set our minds to. Small goals might be anything from cleaning that closet you’ve been telling yourself you are going to clean for months now. It might also be career-oriented such as finally taking the plunge and applying for that job you feel you’re “under-qualified” for but doing it anyway!
8. Focus on solutions
Learn to be solution-oriented and figure out solutions to your problems. More often than not, people tend to complain about things but do absolutely nothing to solve them. When you change this way of thinking, and as you learn to come up with solutions to your problems, you will start to feel better about yourself and your abilities to handle any problem that comes your way. Feeling you can solve anything that happens, makes you feel confident and capable.
9. Empower yourself with knowledge
Knowledge is power! The more we learn the more we become a valuable asset and that sets us ahead of the game! When given the opportunity, read books, watch informative videos and articles online that teach you something you didn’t already know. Take up another language. Teach yourself about the stock market and how it works, if you don’t know. We spend countless hours scrolling on the internet looking at completely pointless things that aren’t going to get you ahead in life. When you’re informed you feel important and that makes you feel more confident.
10. Surround yourself with people who are aiming to win in life
Take a personal inventory of the people you allow to be in your life. Are they set out to win? Are they trying to get ahead in life or are they okay with being mediocre? Furthermore, do they even know they’re being mediocre? If the answer is no, then you need to thank them for the time they’ve been in your life and let them know that the two of you are just on different paths and that’s okay but you have to move forward. If you’re unable to do that then just slowly taper off. This isn’t about hurting anyone’s feelings, it’s about you putting yourself first and working towards the life you want and learning to be confident along the way! If that’s somethingg they cant understand and respect then maybe you did yourself a favor by letting them go.